My husband likes to say, "bad karma!" when I bring up potential crisis topics such as the idea of being prepared if one (or both) of us need a decade of chronic care in the future. Who wants to think about that?! No one, including me. So, my default is "If X ever happened, what would your preferences be?" And then, importantly, "Why?" because sometimes solutions are more nuanced and greyer than we can anticipate. This is a bit gloomy, isn't it? Or is it life - lol! Thought-provoking post.
that is stressful for you...and kind of crummy of him to put that on you. we love our spouses but each of has his or her "things" this must be his...so, it's up to you! Yay! smile and carry onward but do the work or you won't sleep....
My husband likes to say, "bad karma!" when I bring up potential crisis topics such as the idea of being prepared if one (or both) of us need a decade of chronic care in the future. Who wants to think about that?! No one, including me. So, my default is "If X ever happened, what would your preferences be?" And then, importantly, "Why?" because sometimes solutions are more nuanced and greyer than we can anticipate. This is a bit gloomy, isn't it? Or is it life - lol! Thought-provoking post.
I suspect we're hard-wired to focus on more short-term needs and threats and postpone a future that isn't a threat...YET. :) Thanks for reading!
that is stressful for you...and kind of crummy of him to put that on you. we love our spouses but each of has his or her "things" this must be his...so, it's up to you! Yay! smile and carry onward but do the work or you won't sleep....
Thank you, Kim.
Ouch! That hit close to home. A thought-provoking post as always.